Once you have decided that you are interested in more, you move to Negotiation, which is about the scene itself. This may happen at a different time or as part of or following the above conversation.

Here are some beginning questions that are more related to negotiation than vetting. These questions apply to both Top and Bottom. This is just a beginning; see Negotiation for more.

• What are you looking to get out of doing a rope scene with me?
• The answer to this question will help inform what kind of scene you might do as well as if you think you may be compatible with this person.
• Potential answers: education, trying a new thing, increasing experience, taking pretty pictures, Bottoming before learning how to rig for themselves, tying for sex, etc.
• Are you aware of any triggers that I need to know about so I can avoid them?
• Is sexual touch something that you want to be included in this scene?
• What kind of aftercare do you need?