No one owes you anything. They don’t owe you their time or knowledge. If they choose to gift you either, respect that. Value it as the gift it is. Thank them.

The Folly of Playing a Numbers Game

Copying and pasting the same message into twenty different message boxes may seem like it will increase your chances of connecting with someone, but it won’t.

Treat people like they are real people that you may someday have a relationship with and care about. Be respectful of their time and put some effort into how you reach out. Read profiles, reach out to people you find genuinely interesting and with whom you actually have real points of connection. Show that interest in your messages. They are not fantasy dispensers. Catch their interest with those real points of connection. Give them a reason to want to respond.

Go to events and meet people in real life. Moving the relationship from virtual space to real life space is the only way you will be able to actually do rope together, and you have a much better chance of doing that if you genuinely connect with the other person.

And never send unsolicited pictures of your genitals. Seriously. That is an instant turn-off.