Questions to Ask When Vetting a Potential Rope Top
- Have you ever Topped for rope before?
- What, specifically, would you like to try? What is your experience with that/those thing(s)?
- Are you involved in the local community or scene? What kinds of community events do you go to?
- What kinds of things do you check for to ensure the safety of your Bottom?
- How do you clean your rope?
- Tell me about a time when a scene went wrong. How did you handle it?
- Do you have references from other partners I can talk to whom you have tied?
- What kinds of educational resources do you use to continue learning about rope?
- Remember, informed consent is not possible if one is not informed. It is necessary for both Tops and Bottoms to learn about the potential risks that come along with rope bondage.
- What are your hard/soft limits?
- I’m interested in being tied by you; would you be interested in doing a scene with me?