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Manchmal möchte ich einfach aufhören zu fühlen
Wenn mein ängstlicher Geist sich weigert, zur Ruhe zu kommen, gibt mir intensive Seilarbeit etwas, was der Rest des Lebens nicht kann - totale, zielgerichtete Präsenz.
Ich bin wirklich gut darin, Leute wegzudrängen
Ich bitte um Verbindung und erstarre dann, wenn sie da ist. Notizen zu Vermeidung, Perfektionismus und dem Versuch, sich trotzdem zu zeigen - in der Seilpraxis und überall sonst.
Neck Rope
Rope is already a risky activity. Putting rope around the neck even more so. Yet, some people *do* do it. The beginner's rule about neck rope is "Don't", but as people advance, if they want to explore neck rope, a more nuanced set of rules is needed...
Babys erste Hochseilparty
Meine erste Seilparty als Baby Rope Top - Affirmationen vom Meister bevor ich ging, ein sorgfältiges Gote Shibari mit dem Gastgeber und ein Raum voller Philosophieren.
Partyeinladungen und Unsicherheit
Ich bin zu einer Seilparty eingeladen worden - und ich bin ängstlich. Notizen über soziales Überdenken, das Imposter-Syndrom und die Frage "Bin ich seilig genug?", bevor sich die Tür öffnet.
Maßgeschneiderte Passform
Ein Pentagramm-Brustgurt mit Hekate - drei Anproben, sorgfältiges Feedback und das ungewohnte Terrain körperlicher Intimität ohne sexuellen Kontext.
Qualität und die Rolle der Perfektion
Haben Sie manchmal das Gefühl, dass nichts, was Sie tun, etwas wert ist? Als ob jeder Versuch, das zu sein, was Sie wollen, fehlschlägt? Manchmal habe ich das. Wie jetzt gerade.
Top 5 Best Shibari Ties for Beginners
Discover the Top 5 Best Introductory Shibari Ties in this essential guide to rope bondage for beginners. Explore Shibari safely and confidently with these easy and simple ties.
Master the 4 Fundamental Knots
These four knots are the fundamental building blocks of shibari. Understand these, then go on to use them to build core rope bondage techniques like the Single Column, Double Column and more.
Der Frühling ist da, bringen wir Schwung in die Sache!
Der erste Beitrag über pikante Verabredungen: Ideen für preisgünstige Verabredungen, Argumente für die Planung von Intimität, Grünzeug aus dem Wald für Saag Paneer und ein stressfreier Seilabgang.
Zum ersten Mal mit Hekate binden
Das erste Mal, dass ich eine andere Person fesselte - ein Shinju, Doppelsäulen, eine Beinleiter, und der Meister lehrte mich, als junge Frau mehr Körperraum einzunehmen.
Wie uns das Zusammenwachsen auseinanderreißen kann
Warum Knick - und Verbindung - in langfristigen Partnerschaften verblassen, und was mich die bewusste Seilpraxis gelehrt hat, neugierig auf Menschen zu bleiben, die ich bereits kenne.
Überraschung, eine Frist!
Eine überraschende Einladung zum Rubber Ball USA - und ein 92-Tage-SMART-Ziel, um von einem Baby-Seiltop zu einem selbstbewussten, wiederholbaren, öffentlichkeitstauglichen Top zu kommen.
1-2-3 Column Ties
Is it a Double Column Tie just because it contains two wrists? Is there such thing as a Triple Column Tie?
Räumliche Transformation
Ich bereite meinen Seilraum für den ersten Gast vor: Staubsauger, ein paar Pflanzen, warmes Licht und ein Exkurs darüber, wie Smartphones mich zu einem schlechteren Gastgeber machen, als ich es sein möchte.
Das Problem mit Seilböden...
Über das Planungschaos bei der Suche nach Seilunterteilen außerhalb einer Beziehung, den Aufbau einer eigenen Seilidentität und die Seiloberteileigenschaften, die ich am meisten bewundere.
Konditionierung und Vorbereitung
Ich stelle mein erstes Seilset zusammen - Jojobaöl zur Pflege, Überhandknoten, die halten, und die Erkenntnis, dass perfekte Seile mich nicht zu einem besseren Rigger machen.
Die Kunst des Selbstbindens
Über die schwierige Kunst des Selbstbindens - Einstimmung, Auswahl eines Tutorials und den Unterschied zwischen dem Üben allein und dem Üben mit einer anderen Person.
Die Auswahl *meiner* Seile
Die Hanfseile, die ich vor einem Jahr geschnitten habe, lagen ein hartes Jahr lang in meinem Schrank. Jetzt hole ich sie wieder hervor - und erfahre, wie sich die Stimme des "Hochstaplers" aus der Nähe anhört.
Warum will ich das tun?
Der erste Eintrag. Warum ich diese Reise mit dem Seil jetzt beginne: um Kunst zu machen, mehr zur Arbeit meines Partners beizutragen und in einer Welt, die aus den Fugen gerät, meine Handlungsfähigkeit zurückzugewinnen.
Comparison is the Thief of Joy
“Comparison is the Thief of Joy” … but it doesn’t have to be!
Adapting Ties for Various Bodies & Needs
Actions speak louder than words. Demonstrate that you care for your partner by adapting your ties for their particular needs. Most ties can be modified to work with a wide range of different body types using only a few techniques.
Building Blocks - Simple Strap Nodes
Here are three common approaches to creating nodes when making simple, one-wrap straps … and why you might choose one over another.
Outdoor Scenes & Photography
Free Sample of CAS Considerations for outdoor scenes or photo shoots
Updates to Foundations of Rope Bondage
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The Box Tie Position
Box Ties are popular with rope enthusiasts. Learn more about this position and things you can do to make it more comfortable.
Getting Started
If you’ve been wondering how you can safely (and consensually) tie up a partner, you’ve come to the right place!
Special Offer - Suspiria Rope Bundle
Special Offer; Rope from my affiliates for the Suspiria Rope Dress + a free month on TheDuchy when you sign up.
Small Fiber Neuropathy
A person with SFN may experience pain or other sensations in ways or to degrees that you might not expect.
Predicament Bondage - DIY Edition
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Understanding "the Scene"
"The Scene" or "The Community" is a vibrant subculture. Like all subcultures, they have expectations that you need to understand and respect if you are to be successful.
Nerves & Circulation
Understanding nerves and circulation and how they may be impacted by rope is critical to reducing the risk of rope bondage.
Risks When Using Rope
Rope bondage is not safe. There are risks. Your #1 priority is to make sure you understand and manage those risks.
A Framework for Successful BDSM Encounters
If you include these important elements, you are much more likely to have a successful BDSM (or other) encounter.
Finding a Potential Rope Partner
If you are looking for a partner with whom to explore rope, go where such people may be more easily found!
Vetting a Potential Rope Partner
So you met someone that you think you might like to do rope with. Vet them first! See if they are known to the local community and what reputation they have.
General Scene Negotiation & Planning
This is the foundation of authentic, informed consent.
Setting Up & Conducting a Scene
The time has arrived for the scene you negotiated and planned. Take time beforehand to set things up for success!
Aftercare & Post-Scene Processing
The few minutes immediately after your scene are incredibly important in creating a wonderful overall experience.
Continuing Your Rope Education
When people engage in BDSM activities, they put tremendous trust in each other. There are risks. You need to understand those risks and manage them.
Consent
Consent is the Cornerstone of Everything We Do. Without it, much of what we do would legally be assault.
Handling Rope While Tying
Understanding how to move rope efficiently, add more if you need to, use up extra rope at the end and modify a tie for different body types are all important skills.
Handling - Using Up Extra Rope
How to use up extra rope when your main tie is complete.
Handling - Locking Off
When instructions just say "lock it off" it usually means that it doesn't really matter how. Here are a few common ways.
Handling - Moving Rope
How to move rope like an experienced rigger!
Chair Ties (A Mini Course)
A modular mini-course showing many ways to tie your partner to a chair!
Winning Photos!
Themed Photo Contests on our Discord server
Speed Bondage (Class)
An instructor resource for those teaching speed bondage based on the Prusik knot
Foundations of Rope Bondage (Class)
An instructor resource intended for those teaching an introductory class on Rope Bondage
Scene Negotiation Forms
Here are some forms to help guide negotiations prior to a scene.
Rope 101/102 Instructor Resources
An instructor resource intended for those teaching an introductory class on Rope Bondage
BDSM 101/102 Instructor Resources
An instructor resource intended for those teaching an introductory class on BDSM
A BDSM Experience and Curiosity Checklist
What is a "Hell, Yes!!"? What is a "Hell, No!"? What is a "?" Explore the list to expand your horizons!
A Kinky Education List
Some people are just here for the artistry, some people want to learn more. Here is a good place to start for both new and experienced players.
Corsets (a mini-course)
Learn the building blocks so you can easily design your own rope corset!
Ball Ties - Core
There are *many* ways to tie your partner into a ball. This tutorial shows you over 1600 of them…
Ball Ties - Examples 2-7
Here are a few examples of tying your partner into a ball. Do the 'Ball Ties' tutorial first!
Ball Ties - Example 1
This is one simple way to tie your partner into a helpless ball!
Creating a Scene
Full Members Only - Using multiple ties in combination to create amazing scenes!
Choosing Rope
What type of rope should you use?
3 Useful Rope Lengths & Thicknesses
What thicknesses and lengths of rope should I have in my kit?
Bra (A Mini Course)
This tutorial gives you the building blocks so you can design your own bra!
Bamboo Bondage
The use of bamboo in a bondage scene is evocative. This course walks you through the concepts from beginner to advanced
Finding a local mentor
There are many people out there that can help give you face-to-face training and mentorship. How do you find them?
Bamboo Suspension Friction
Very fast friction. Great for around wider hard points like bamboo or pipe
Anchoring a Horizontal Pole to a Hard Point
How to anchor a horizontal pole of bamboo or a pipe to overhead hard points
Hashira Anchor
How to tie a hard point to a vertical beam, tree, pole, etc...
Hashira (Vertical Beam) Shibari
A few of the *many* ways to tie your partner to a vertical beam, column, post, pole, etc...
Bamboo Bondage - Frames
A variety of bondage frames and a few ideas of what you can do with them!
Bamboo Bondage - Elbow Lock
Takezao Shibari - Bondage with a single pole of bamboo - Elbow lock version
Bamboo Bondage - Yoke
Takezao Shibari - Bondage with a single pole of bamboo - Elbow lock version
Bamboo Bondage - Anchoring a pole to your partner
Two ways to attach a pole to your partner so they cannot slide it out of position
Bamboo Bondage - Attaching
A variety of ways to attach your partner to a pole or a frame
Lashings
Lashings connect two pieces of bamboo (two sticks, two dowels, whatever) together ... used to create bondage frames
Flogger Forge!
Flogger Forge - Learn how to make your own custom floggers from rope!
Stretching for ... Access from Behind
If you like being taken from behind, it is fun to have good hip flexibility so you can bend over comfortably
Building Core Strength
Whether you would like to hold your hips up or be more comfortable in suspension, core strength is key
Stretching for Box Ties
The key to being able to do a box tie or to get your elbows close together is flexibility in your *shoulders*
Building Blocks - Junctions
What choices you have when two ropes cross each other -- Twist, Crossing Hitch, Cow Hitch -- and how they are related
Burlington Bowline - Old Version
A very fast, very stable single column tie. Once you master it, it takes only 20-30 seconds to tie
Coiling & Storing Rope
Here are a few ways to coil and/or store your ropes
Gote Shibari
Gote Shibari (aka the "Takate Kote" or "TK") is an very popular box tie used by riggers around the world!
Frictions
Frictions are used to connect two bands of rope together tightly so that they support each other and don't slip out of position
Your First Suspension – Basic Seated Suspension
This may be your first suspension. This tutorial finally gets your partner up in the air!
Partial Suspension
This tutorial lets you practice all the skills you need for full suspension, but with the safety net of letting your partner keep one leg on the ground!
Frictions for Hard Points
Frictions are methods for attaching suspension support lines to anchor points in a way that will not slip when holding the weight of an entire person
Suspension - Hangers
How to attach a suspension load-bearing support line to a harness, whether one point, 2 pts, 3 pts or more...
Suspension - The Emergency Munter Hitch
This allows a rigger to lower their partner to the ground safely and gently in *seconds* in an emergency.
Suspension - Evaluating a Hard Point
Suspension - Evaluating a Hard Point. Is it safe to trust with your partner's life?
Choosing Suspension Rope
Members Only - Suspension - What type of rope do you need for your suspension support lines ("up lines")
Scene Planning & Safety
Information helpful for planning out your suspension scene, including additional safety information
Suspension - Top or Bottom, Are you ready for suspension?
Who can suspend? Who can be suspended? Are you ready?
Suspension
Suspension Central. All suspension tutorials start here.
Specialty Knots
Knots that can add a decorative flair or that are useful for a few special cases. You don't need to master these to tackle most tutorials
Extending Rope
Three way to add rope to your tie if you need a bit more...
Crossing Hitch (Munter Hitch or Nodome)
A Crossing Hitch, or Nodome, is used to anchor two cords that cross each other. Often used in shibari to make a tie more stable
Half-Hitches
This simple wrap of rope around an object is a basic building block of many other knots