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DBRT 001: Why do I want to do this?
Not sure if you've noticed, but the world feels like it's falling apart. And I'm not really sure what to do about that. In the past, when the sky was falling around me, I would numb myself. I would li...
DBRT 016: Rubber Ball
The following are some of the ramblings of a very tired Baby Rope Top.
DBRT 015: Sometimes I just want to stop feeling
Typically it happens when I’m alone. Maybe there’s a new stressful global event or a financial fear. Maybe my dad tried to reach out to me again.
DBRT 014: I'm really good at pushing people away
Avoidance. I've had a similar pattern throughout my conscious years on this planet. I ask for connection, I pursue vulnerability and connection, and when it is returned by another person, I freeze. I ...
DBRT 013: Baby's First Rope Party
Well, it happened. I went to my first rope party as a Baby Rope Top, and it went quite well! The evening was quite extended and I could only take so many notes while I was there, so this won’t be a ch...
DBRT 012: Party invites and uncertainty
I’ve been invited to a party! I was never the type to get invited to social functions. Maybe a few times when I was small and it was customary to invite anyone you talked to at school to your birthday...
DBRT 011: Custom fit
A few days ago I had the pleasure of tying with my friend Hekate again. The tie that I was working on this time was the Pentagram Harness. It's a very attractive chest harness that was way more satisf...
DBRT 010: Quality and the role of perfection
Do you ever feel like nothing you do is worth anything? Like every attempt to be what you want falls apart? I do, sometimes. Like right now.
DBRT 009: Tying with Hekate for the first time
I have officially plunged in! My friend Hekate came over the other night to tie with me and it went very well!! As well as a first experience can be expected to go. We chatted and snacked for a while ...
DBRT 008: How growing closer can tear us apart
It can be very easy to center yourself in your own life. I wouldn’t call myself a self-centered person, in fact, I would say sometimes I don’t center myself enough. But there’s some complexity here th...
DBRT 007: Surprise, a deadline!
Things just got a little more exciting! I have a deadline. It seems that the folks organizing Rubber Ball USA 2025 would like TheDuchy to have a setup in the VIP dungeon. I’ve really enjoyed my time a...
DBRT 006: Spatial transformation
Exciting news! I have a rope bottom coming over at the end of this week, and I need to prepare! There’s nothing that gets my ass in gear as much as company coming over. Suddenly every speck of dirt be...
DBRT 005: The trouble with rope bottoms...
They all have lives and schedules that are different from mine! Ugh, I can understand why people give up rope when they break up with a romantic partner. It’s much easier to fit rope practice into you...
DBRT 004: The art of the self-tie
It’s time to begin the actual tying part of this journey! Luckily, as an assistant and apprentice to TheDuchy, I already have a good understanding of the basics. I’ve got the Foundations class down pa...
DBRT 003: Conditioning and getting ready
I’ve spent most of my rope journey being on the receiving end. A rope bottom, or bunny. Because I have experience being in rope, I have a unique understanding of how I would want to be treated in rope...
DBRT 002: Picking out *my* ropes
A little less than a year ago I cut a set of ropes from a spool of linen hemp Master had lying around. I figured I’d start with hemp as that’s what I’m used to teaching with, and it has enough tooth t...
DBRT 001: Why do I want to do this?
Not sure if you’ve noticed, but the world feels like it’s falling apart. And I’m not really sure what to do about that. In the past, when the sky was falling around me, I would numb myself. I would li...