Desperation is not a good look … unless it is part of a pre-negotiated scene (a look of desperation in the eyes of their bound partner can be a huge turn-on for some riggers).

If you are just beginning your rope/kink journey, it may feel like your options and opportunities are few and far between. You may feel like you will never find what you crave. This will change with time. Accept that things take time and enjoy the journey as you go. Rushing to find a partner can make for cringe-worthy messages or interactions.

Confidence is sexy, desperation is not.

Take your time. Meet in public places, at munches, at events, learn the community, let them learn about you. Eventually you will find someone that you connect with, and you can build from there.