Welcome to Shibari
Whether you are completely new or just curious, you are in the right place. TheDuchy has been helping people learn rope bondage safely for over 25 years.
What is Shibari?
Shibari (sometimes called kinbaku) is the Japanese art of rope bondage. It evolved from historical restraint techniques into an expressive art form that emphasizes aesthetics, connection, and trust between partners. Today it is practiced worldwide as a creative, meditative, and intimate activity.
At TheDuchy, our focus is on education. We teach technique, safety, and artistry so you can explore rope at your own pace with confidence.
Is it Safe?
Like any physical activity, rope bondage carries risks that can be managed through proper education. Understanding nerve safety, circulation, consent, and communication is essential before you begin. That is why we always recommend starting with our safety and getting-started guides.
- Always communicate openly with your partner
- Learn about nerve pathways and circulation before tying on a person
- Keep safety shears within reach at all times
- Start with simple ties on the ground before attempting anything elevated
Getting Started
The best way to begin is with our free beginner courses. They walk you through everything step by step: understanding consent and negotiation, choosing rope, learning your first knots, and building toward your first complete tie.
Free Resources
You do not need a membership to start learning. We offer a generous selection of free content to help you decide if shibari is right for you.
What You Will Need
To get started you only need rope and a willingness to learn. Here are some recommendations:
Rope
We recommend starting with 6mm jute or hemp rope in lengths of 25-30 feet (8-10 meters). You will want at least 3-4 lengths to start. Synthetic rope (like MFP or nylon) is also a good beginner option and easier to care for.
Safety Shears
Always have EMT shears or safety scissors within reach. They can cut through rope quickly in an emergency.
A Practice Partner (or a Chair)
Many beginners start by practicing on themselves or on a chair before tying with a partner. There is no rush.